I Think That Sometimes

when you share your relationship problems with others, you just end up looking like an idiot, and not only that, you tend to give your friends, family etc. a negative view on the person you are talking about.

I learned this lesson the hard way last year by being a bitch who ALWAYS shared relationship problems with friends and certainly reinforced negativity. It almost never promotes positivity, (and believe it or not, I do possess some of that, though I suppose you can't tell when you read this blog!) and it generally spoils the relationship and makes it difficult to return it to good if the other person knows you blabbed about it. I guess it's something we people feel the need to do, and it's hard not to, but I think it's wisest to keep that kind of stuff to yourself.

It's kind of like those couples who break up and get back together all the time and you hear about every incident. It makes them a laughingstock, and certainly nobody believes in the relationship, usually the people in the relationship stop believing in it too.

I'm thinking about this because of some personal stuff which I WON'T discuss, and because it was my ex-boyfriend's birthday yesterday and I realized that I did this to him. Sometimes it does seem that being alone might be best as it allows for perfect selfishness without hurting someone else, but at the same time, I guess that would be pretty lonely.

Ah whatever. I think when I try to talk about this stuff, I do a pretty bad job of it. I certainly wouldn't take advice from me!