so interesting, my ex from several years ago is apparently in town and has indicated he wants to hang out while here (after which he will be moving to Berlin). It occurs to me that I don’t particularly feel like seeing him. I am not sure where this indifference comes from, but regardless, I am probably not going to go out of my way to make this happen. It's possible there is a bit of resentment on my part to be honest; I've always been available to him if he needed me to be as far as being able to talk and vent about things; I've always returned his calls etc. He has not reciprocated this to me, which is kind of selfish and in reality a continuation of our actual relationship. This is partly why I don't entirely see the value in keeping friendships with exes... at least not when certain patterns from the original relationship continue.
I realize that I actually am feeling pretty indifferent about everything these days and that is troubling too. Fuck, something has to change.
It would be pretty easy to write everybody off at this point.
4 dirty hippies blowing your mind:
i can definitely relate, but it's with a pretty recent ex. basically left me for someone else and three months later started texting and emailing asking for advice on various things, mundane questions about doing his taxes, etc.
the disgusting part is i was nice and answered the questions. i now see that when we were together, i was always there to help him when he needed it, but the reverse was not true.
i think my new dating strategy should be act like a total bitch. ha.
it seems to work for other people from what I can tell...
I have an ex who used to brag about his ability to keep in touch with his exes... and by that it turned out he meant harassing them into seeing him when he was in town so he could still know they cared enough to show up.
If you can, just don't go. Make the plans and then double-book with a friend who'll take you someplace else; ideally he'll get the hint.
yeah it's funny... there's no particular animosity... and I've hung out with him before when he's been in town... but now... I just don't see the need or feel the need you know?
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